10 January 2026 It is absolutely pointless trying to steer, direct, or better people. So what can you do? -- Accept Them For Who They Are -- Create Boundries -- Be A Good Example People do grow but they grow in their own time, in their own way. Here's what works: Don't be the kind of person that needs those around them to have the same beliefs and values as them. If you are like that, you are not mature and you do not possess an actualised mindset. This creates barriers to your personal happiness and the happiness of others, and their ability to grow and mature for themself. If the person you want to see change is a problem to themselves or others, beyond just wanting to live their own life in their own way. Then the best thing you can do for them and yourself is let them know what issues they are causing and set boundaries for them in regards to yourself. You can't tell them how to live, but you can control how they treat you. To do this you must be able to state your boundries clearly, then you must allow yourself to put you first and withdraw your pressence if they don't change their treatment of you. Even if you love them, distance is the key. Not lecturing, or yelling. Extract yourself, until they are able to treat you well, but tell them why first. One surefire way to help people grow is to be a good example to them and for them. Sometimes we just have to wait it out and show love, care, and understanding. But if patterns of behaviour get worse, know that you need to protect yourself and their life is their own, they are responsible for themself as an adult. #mind #creation Published 13-2-2026 Written on https://freewriter.app