Forgiveness hey! whose tried it. It's tricky very very trickay! It's good but it's tricky Some people don't bother And usually to their own detriment They are the haters They choose to hate but back to my main point forgiveness isn't easy and it's generally something you have to do over and over again for the same person or people that is I'm not advocating for poor boundries If someone has wronged you assert yourself and don't allow them to do it again and if they do distancing yourself is a good idea but it helps to make it clear what the problem is and that they have crossed a line and it's ok to penalise them for that by resticting access to you I'm not saying it's easy but it is optimal that way they can learn what is not appropriate and generally make things worse is trying to hurt them back it's not about punishment it's about protecting yourself do not stupe and it's ok to be upset and angry but if you feed on that anger resentment builds the hate creaps in this is the beauty of forgiveness recognising others are only human with their own foibles and shortcomings forgiveness allows to to let it go put it in the past as I've said, this is not something you do once it is a repetetive process a healing but you want them to heal too you are not perfect and their are probably multliple ways you shit people and get them off side but assert your boundaries letting people know what is and isn't ok and be firm be prepared to cut off, pull back and withdraw sometimes forgiveness doesn't involve letting them back in especially if they do not recognise their own mistakes and justify their behaviour you might miss out on a bit of fun and you might really like them but if they treat you poorly it is best to leave them alone some people stay in tit for tat cycles with underlying resentment for years hurting each other while having a good time it's not healthy grow, become, and move on if you are sorrounded by shitbags do not become the shit bag move on but forgive no justified resentments let it go loving someone does not mean allowing them to treat you poorly don't play that game you can either be a hater or someone who forgives but is aware of the fact that sometime people don't recognise their own problems and to protect yourself from other peoples problem while continuing to have an open loving heart #poetry #works Published 10-2-2026 Written on https://freewriter.app